March 16, 2011 | | Leave a comment If you’re a mother like me (God help you), then every day can feel like a crisis. I have only two whirlwinds that I call my children, and there are moments when the chaos is distracting at best, horrifying at worst. So I read with interest about the new book from Linda and Tony Cole. Granted, the book is aimed at business leaders. But as mothers who are going back to school, you are the leaders of tomorrow in my estimation. And you are captains of crisis already – but everyone could use a few more words of hope and help. Hey, it may be almost spring, but the weather hardly shows it and things can feel pretty gray. The couple wrote a book called “Resurrecting Anthony: A True Story of Courage & Destination.” The story tells about how the family recovered – over a two-year period – with their 12-year-old son’s cardiac arrest. They both lost their family so to speak as well as their business during his recovery. The book offers lots of advice on getting our business back in orderâ€¦and your life. Some background: Tony Cole is the president and CEO of the Anthony Cole Training Group. He also was an educator and university coach. His goal was to help individuals learn how to improve their game not by “running faster” but by utilizing tactical behavioral changes. Tony blogs here, and I’ve been loving what he writes. Â He offers these tips to help you focus when trying to keep your business afloat while everything else feels out of your control. That is especially important during a personal crisis – sickness, death, a break-up/divorce, a fire or flood, a move, going back to schoolâ€¦ Here are my favorite tips on focusing your effortsâ€¦Check them out and adapt them to your needs as a mom and student. It is easy to get out of good habits. For example, I try to exercise because it gives me more energy to work and play with the kids. I’ll skip it thinking I’ll have more timeâ€¦and that always ends up a drain on me. So keep up the good stuff if you want your whole life to feel better. You need to practice your skills. Don’t let too many semesters go by without school or learning. The emphasis is there now – don’t lose that ability to study, concentrate and get things done. Fierce, honest conversations are good to have. Tell your spouse or partner that you need this time to improve yourself. They need to help you with the kids, with the housework, with the household. Good things don’t happen every day. This is where I often stumble. I think the world is against me or that things are harder than they need to be. Really, life is life. You just have to muddle through and enjoy good things when they come. Priorities get done; everything else is just talk. If you make education a top priority, you’ll find time and money for it. If you put it down on the list after everything else, that is exactly where it will stay. Talk to the decision-maker to keep from wasting time. I’m interpreting this as talking to your professors and classmates. If you don’t understand a concept, don’t stew on it. Get help. If you’ve got a project that needs you time and attention, let your family know. If you are stressed out and need support, let your spouse know. No one understands what’s happening in your head except for you – get the words out there and see what happens. I hope you never have a major crisis. I hope your days are calm, cool and collected. But, chances are, things will go wrong one day. Maybe these tips will help you keep your eyes on the prize, as they say. I know they have helped me reprioritize when needed. Tony knows a great deal about leadership, organization, motivation, about tough choices, adapting and finding a way when everything seems impossible. He also does newsletters that you can have emailed to youâ€¦Check them out! And check this out for ways to find the perfect career and degree for you. Maybe it will help you avoid a crisis!